His Needs, Her Needs
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I am very thankful to my friend, Marjz, for giving me and my wife a great book on our wedding. The book is all about how to build an ‘affair-proof marriage’ and is authored
by Dr. Williard F. Harley, Jr. The book discusses things(small and big) that we tend to ignore but may affect our relationship. I particularly liked the way Harley presented each topic especially the real-life examples presented that he got from his years (or decades) marriage-counselling. It made the book an easy read.
The basic idea that the book tries to present is that each person has a set of needs that must be met in order for them to feel satisfied and happy in a relationship. A person must be aware of the needs of his/her partner to make their relationship much happier. This book will help you guide and direct in meeting those needs.
I’m quite surprised how sex and affection play a great role in maintaining a happy and fulfilling marriage. You’ll find in the first few chapters that sex(for men) and affection(for women) are two of the things that keep the warmth of the relationship and the lack of it contributes to animosity and bitterness.
This book is highly recommended for newlyweds and for everbody who are in a relationship. I’m not a bookworm but I can assure you, this is an excellent book.
Dr. Harley summarizes five basic needs of a husband and a wife as follows:
Hers
- Affection
- Conversation
- Honesty and Openness
- Financial Support
- Family Commitment
His
- Sexual Fulfillment
- Recreational Compansionship
- Attractive Spouse
- Domestic Support
- Admiration
You can visit Dr. Harvey’s website here.